I (28F) recently declined to attend my sister’s (32F) wedding because of her very strict dress code, and now my entire family is upset with me.

My sister is having a black-tie wedding and required all guests to wear specific colors — black, white, or beige only. I was totally fine with that until she told me I had to wear a beige dress because “black and white are for VIPs only,” and she didn’t want “too many people in black or white in the photos.”

I explained that beige completely washes me out, and I’d prefer to wear black or even navy if that was okay. She flat-out refused and said that if I didn’t like it, I didn’t have to come. So... I didn’t.

Now, she’s angry and saying I made her wedding all about myself, and my mom says I’m being petty and disrespectful. But I genuinely didn’t want to look and feel uncomfortable all day, especially in photos that will be around forever.

So... AITA?