I (27 Enby) live with one roommate (30F) in a 1 BA apartment. For reference, both bathrooms are in neutral locations in one of the halls of our apartment, so nobody has a locational advantage.

My roommate and I both work jobs that have us out the door by 10am at the latest; which obviously means we need to start getting ready close to the same time. While I typically leave for work an hour later than my roommate everyday, I get in the bathroom about two hours before I even need to leave because I take long showers and have a long bathroom routine. I try to accommodate my roommate by being done right around when they wake up.

However, without fail, every time I use the bathroom in the morning, I get a knock on my door to signal she needs to pee. This usually happens the second I reach the toilet. Every time, I wrap it up, step out the bathroom, let her do her thing, then go back in. What always seems to irritate me though is the way she will joke and say “the sound of you closing the bathroom door woke me up and I needed to pee!” It’s frustrating because she gets into the bathroom < 45 minutes before she needs to leave for the day. I’ve rather lightheartedly suggested to her that she should adopt my method of getting in the bathroom earlier to have more alone time, and she completely dismissed me. Of course I do understand waking up earlier than needed is a pain, but when you share space with someone else you have to adjust.

Today, I hit my limit. I had a work event 1.5 hrs away from the apartment that I need to be at by 10am. Factoring in doing hair, skin/body care, making coffee etc, I needed to leave my place by 7:45am to be safe. I even warned her the night before that she may hear me getting up extremely early for that reason and she understood I’d need the bathroom around that time. So I get to the bathroom @ 6am, earlier than my roommate would ever need to be in the bathroom, and of course the same deal. She knocks, asks to use the bathroom because she “needs to go”. I told her I needed to get ready and she said she only needed to pee, so I obliged. As soon as she comes in, she talks about all the skincare I have on the counter (I always clean up when I’m done, but I hadn’t even started so ofc it was still out) and asked if the bathroom was always this junky when I’m using it. She even goes as far as to tell me I need to be “mindful” of our shared space that, again, I never leave cluttered when I’m finished.

Since her emergency didn’t seem like an emergency anymore, I kicked her out the bathroom and advised her to hold it or use the bathroom of our mutual friend who lives in the same building as us. She ended up just sulking and going back into her room and when I came out the bathroom she called me an AH for kicking her out of her own bathroom when she needed to go. Maybe I am, but I’m so tired of adjusting my bathroom schedule around her needs. So AITAH?