Okay, so this has been building for a while. My girlfriend’s been accusing me of being a narcissist almost every time we argue. She says I have no empathy, that I always make everything about me, and that I twist things to play the victim. I don’t think that’s true. I mean, sure, I get defensive sometimes — who wouldn’t if they were constantly being psychoanalyzed by their partner?

The weird part is, she used to say I was too emotional. Now I’m "emotionally unavailable." Which is it?

It came to a head last night. She was going on again, saying how I manipulate her and how I "weaponize confusion" or something. I honestly don’t even know what that means. I told her she was being unfair and making things up to justify treating me like crap.

I don’t even remember how the phone got in my hand, I think I was trying to give it back to her, and maybe I tossed it too hard or something — it hit the wall. It wasn’t like a rage throw, it was more like... frustration? She freaked out like I tried to break it on purpose, but it was already cracked before.

I left after that to cool off, and she texted me that I’m toxic and she’s scared of me. Which feels... extreme? I mean, yeah, I lost my temper, but does that make me a narcissist?

I don’t even know anymore. Maybe I did mess up. But she’s not exactly blameless — she knows what buttons to push, and sometimes it’s like she wants me to blow up just so she can say, “See? Look how you are.”

So, AITA?