My mom lives nearby and her husband was away, traveling for work, so she wanted to stay overnight at my place for some company. When I got home I noticed she'd cleaned my room and moved some stuff around.

Later that night while she was sleeping, I went to grab my dildo from my drawer. It wasn't there. Neither was my vibrator. I checked everywhere, but I could not find them.

I asked her if she'd moved anything from my drawer. She told me she threw my toys away because she didn't want me using them, with "if you had a bf and wanted to get married, you wouldn't need that stuff". I was so upset. She refused to pay me back "for that stuff".

Before she left I took a pair of her earrings from her purse. I called her that night and told her that she'll get her earrings back when she reimburses me for what she threw out and that I'll throw the earrings out if she doesn't pay me the money back. She was angry and said I was being petty and childish. She didn't pay me that day or the next day.

My sister told me to just let it go "because that's just how Mom is." But I'm tired of hearing that excuse. A couple days later, my mom sent me the money - no apology, just the payment and a text "now give me my earrings back". I dropped the earrings off at her house.

I don't think I went too far. AITA?