My fiancé and I (both 28M, yes we're gay) are getting married next year. We started wedding planning last year and it had a really bad impact on me. I was diagnosed with OCD and anxiety disorder when I was 18 and I had to drop out of high school before graduation because the neglect to my mental health over several years was bad. I had parents who didn't like me being gay or different and supportive family was not around me. So nobody ever tried to get me help when I was clearly struggling and it spiraled.

I am medicated and I have a psychiatrist and a therapist to help me manage my mental health. I also take meds daily. But some things still trigger me more extremely and wedding planning was one of them.

I was having nightmares every single night about messing something up with something I was in charge of or making a bad decision. It was to the point where I didn't sleep for more than an hour or two a night and woke my fiancé up because I was crying or screaming over something that had gone horribly wrong in those nightmares.

I talked to my therapist, my fiancé and I tried to use my coping skills to pull through it but it was bad and so my fiancé encouraged me to step back and let him plan and do the work. He said he'd take that weight off my shoulders. I felt bad but he assured me he wanted a healthy husband and that was the most important thing for him.

Some friends and some of his family have expressed some unhappiness that I'm stepping back. Some see it as a bad sign for things to come and others say it's not that serious and I shouldn't be so negatively impacted. But I'll never know what could be a surprisingly stubborn trigger.

I was told since I was sleeping fine after stepping back I should at least keep trying to help with the planning and decision making. My fiancé keeps reassuring me I'm doing the right thing but I hate that anyone feels like I'm being lazy and don't care as much.

AITA?