I(25f) just got married in September. I went through hell and back planning it and about 2 months before the wedding I had emergency surgery. It was scary. I lost one of my jobs and it was a mess. During the planning of my wedding I had 3 male family member cause issue up until the day of.

Person 1: my dads second oldest brother My uncle “E” had offered me some time ago that he would design a pair of shoes for me. I could create the designs and get it back to him. At the beginning of July I began sending stuff over as I had to wait for him to finish a pair he was already working on. However when I got sick I was delayed and had to rush to finish them. I sent them off in the hopes he would have them ready. 2 days before my wedding he texts me telling me “hey sorry to spring this on you ,but i never got your shoes started. I won’t be able to attend either as I had some event come up”. He’d known about my wedding for over a year and yet this “event” was more important than his only niece getting married. I was upset because I’d been hoping for these shoes. I’d spent well over 24 hrs designing and drawing them out. He never apologized to my face and it still hurts.

Person 2: my dads oldest brother My uncle “M” made it to my wedding. Him and I were super close when I was growing up and he was my biggest supporter as I was an arts student in HS. I’d asked him about a month prior if he’d give a speech. Because he and I were so close. He accepted and the day of I was really looking forward to him speaking. When it came time for him to speak and he was called up. He was nowhere to be seen. All I heard from the crowd was “your grandma and him left already”. Like what? No goodbye, not thanks for having me here. Not nothing. I was bummed and have voiced my opinions on it and all I got back in return was “you’ll be ok”.

Person 3: my grandfather My grandfather and I aren’t super close. He hasn’t been with my grandma in the entire life I’ve lived and has remarried. He never really speaks to me and unlike my dad and mom. He doesn’t call me on my birthday or wish me a happy holiday. He has my number. It ain’t changed in the many years I’ve had a phone. When I was planning my wedding my dad messaged me one night telling me that his dad called asking if he could come to my wedding. He wasn’t forwarded to me, he didn’t ask for my number I ask me himself. I assume he wanted my dad to guilt me. However I left the decision up to my grandma. Because I’m closer to her and see her weekly. If she wasn’t comfortable with it. I wouldn’t be (I already wasn’t but whatever). I invited him anyway as a spiteful way to say “look what you’ve missed out on as your only granddaughter. When he came he was very reserved (which was expected he doesn’t speak much to me ). But after my wedding I ain’t heard a peep. Nothing. And yet I sit here and ask myself if I was right in even inviting him in general.

A part of me feels I’m just hanging onto bad memories. But two of the people I used to be close with abandoned me and the one person I gave an olive branch to just showed up to be nosey. So am ITA?