I’ve had a difficult relationship with my mother since I was young. My mother has always been extremely critical of me, has little to no ability to regulate her own emotions, and has an explosive temper.

We have had issues for years and years but after I had my first child things got a lot worse. My mum regularly scoffed at the way I wanted to raise my daughter. She told me she hated the name I chose, was upset I wouldn’t christen my daughter the way she wanted me to, would roll her eyes when I spent time trying to connect emotionally with my daughter and teach her regulation etc.

She constantly said nasty things, and if she was ever called on it she would pull the whole “you’re too Sensitive, I didn’t mean it like that, it was a joke, I guess I’m just the worst mother ever” etc.

About a year ago I stopped her from seeing me and my daughter after a big blow up where my mum said something really horrible, then did her usual thing of deflecting. Recently she contacted me again saying “enough time had passed” but when asked if she would be willing to take responsibility if she hurt someone and apologise she refused and said I needed to accept her as she is. She then messaged our family group chat making out that she had agreed to the changes. Other family members think I should have forgiven her because in the group chat she said she would make the changes. But on the phone she adamantly refused.

This decision might affect my daughter in the future- what if having her grandparents around would have been the best thing for her ? And it has affected the rest of my family- who have now cut me off for deciding not to see my mother anymore.

AITA?