Hello,

My friend had recently left their partner because they "fell in love" with someone in our friend group. When they initially had this conversation with me, they wanted "everything to stay the same" after this conversation. We talked about them feeling unsupported by their partner during a certain situation and falling out of love for at least a year. They did want to preface that they would like to work on themselves in the time being. They proceeded to talk about wanting to start a relationship with our mutual because they feel more supported by them.

I totally understand growing apart from your partner. Not everyone is meant to be together no matter the amount of time they have been together or tried to even go to couples therapy to help with some problems. But I also think in order to "work on yourself" you have to learn how to be by yourself and not be codependant on other people. I find that this person in particular is quite reactive to any situation and does not know how to properly regulate themselves. I thought that in order for them to grow, having a boundary between them and the person they have feelings for currently would be best just so that they could heal from the relationship they were just in and grow before even thinking about a new relationship. In the conversation that they had with me, they agreed that boundaries should be set.

Right after the break up happened, a day later, we found both of their locations together (the person who just broke up with their partner and the mutual friend that they fell in love with). I did not agree with this action and for my sanity I had deleted their locations from my "Find my" app. I also felt hurt by the fact that they specifically said that they wouldn't see that person for awhile in order to heal. I wrote a message saying that for my sanity, I am taking them off. (For context, I have previous cheating trauma and this sort of triggered it).

Since then, they have taken me off of everything because they felt unsupported by this action and they just want everything to "stay the same." I feel like the group dynamic is of course going to change especially since all three of them were in the same friend group. Should I feel bad for not being friends with them anymore or should I just count my losses.

Am I the Asshole for taking my friend off of "Find my" so that I don't see their location?