I am 32 F with my fiance being a 37 M. We have been together for 6 years - I will preface this by saying our relationship has definitely not been perfect, with a lot of trust issues stemming from him lying regarding messaging other women/porn addiction amongst other things early on - We have worked (and still working) on a lot of it, but our current situation at hand seems to me to be another form of addiction in an unhealthy way, and he is livid at me for suggesting so.

Video games - I have no problem if he wants to play a video game for a few hours a couple nights a week - in fact I have tried engaging in it and finding games we could play together as well - so it is not an anti gaming thing here. We have a 4yo son who I am a stay at home mom to, and alongside taking care of/teaching our son all day, I also quite literally take care of every aspect of our household as well.

Now while I have had some mixed feelings about this in the past, I pushed them to the side since he was financially providing, and accepted it for what it was - He has since taken a remote job since August of last year, and this has now made me privy to the fact that he plays video games in his office close to 6/7hrs each day, with on average 1 or 2 hrs of actual work.

Then he will come out of the office and moan about how tired he is, what a long day he's had, he doesn't have the energy to play with our son or take care of projects around the house - More often than not he will get done "working" and then start zoning out on his phone playing another game or watching videos. And as soon as our son has gone to bed, he'll go to playing a video game in the living room, so the 6/7hrs playing during work hours is not including the additional time he plays in the evening.

To me it seems like addictive behavior at this point or a complete lack of priorities for helping around the house/spending time with his family.

If he's able to get away with only working 1 or 2 hrs a day, then great! But why would a 37yo want to waste away all the rest of his free time by being stuck in a video game instead of bonding with his son during critical years or helping out? Or even just reading a freaking book or well, anything other than a video game!

So I brought this up finally in as least of an accusatory/resentful way as I could, I phrased that I was concerned about the amount of time he spends playing video games and wanted to ask if he is doing so because he feels a lack in other areas of our life together or if he's going through a rough time mentally etc.

He responded shrugging it off saying "yeah I know I've been playing too much lately I need to cut back" - Then the following 3 days after having this conversation, he continued the exact same routine. So I brought it up again today to which he exploded and said I'm being judgemental and why does it matter if he's doing that while he's "working" -

Really trying to understand if anyone else would consider this 'normal' behavior and am I really getting more upset about it than I should be.

Thanks in advance