I own rental properties. My boyfriend (31m) and I (29 f) are temporarily staying in a unit in my duplex right now. The issue is my bf is saying I’m being overly controlling while I’m saying he needs to respectful of my rules of my units because I am a landlord and have to set an example to tenants.

The duplex has a shared fenced yard (no divider between the units) to have a sense of privacy and their own space in the lease I tell tenants to keep their activities and items to their units side of the yard. I told my bf the dog needs to be checked on so it doesn’t go into their side of the yard or use the bathroom there. All the time I can tell he hasn’t check on the dog and I’m like “have you checked on the dog?? Please stop leaving her out there I always have to tell you. “And he says it’s not a big deal the tenant doesn’t even use their yard and I’m overreacting it hasn’t been that long. I say it’s about principal and setting an example and how am I supposed to correct my tenants on things when I’m not doing it myself?

The last unit of mine we stayed at the tenant next door asked if my bf could pick up the dogs poop because they almost stepped in it and I got mad at my bf. This has happened with a few different things like when his cigarette butts were not put in the bin and scattered around. I feel so frustrated. We got in some big fights over this stuff.

Am I being too much? He owes me rent and makes comments like this multiple times “why should I pay you rent when it’s not even treated like my place too I’m just controlled ” and says he doesn’t mean it and that he’ll pay rent but it irks me he says that .

Edit: he will check on the dog but there’s many times I’ve caught he waiting too long-laying down or shitting and i ask he be more consistent