for some context my (18F) brother (15M) and i have had a pretty rough childhood that’s left both of us with a lot of mental health struggles. he however, has taken the events of the past particularly hard and has almost no coping skills. he often lashes out at people for little to no reason and has developed a drug addiction as well as extremely mentally and physically abusive behavior towards almost everyone in his life.

the cops have been called on him many times for these reasons and the courts keep failing him and brushing off the incidents so nothing beneficial is ever done. it’s gotten to the point where his family is scared of him. he has personally put me in the hospital before as a result of his behavior.

anyway, he had the cops called on him last week for the same reasons and landed himself in the hospital for a psych evaluation where he wasn’t allowed to contact anyone from the outside world for 24 hours. his girlfriend (15F) had texted me asking what happened and why he wasn’t responding to her, so i gave her a rundown of the story. come to find out, he hasn’t been telling her about any of this behavior and she was under the impression that he got the cops called on him every time he “had a bad day” and that everyone else was just overreacting. that was most certainly not the case.

obviously she was taken aback by what i was telling her about him. i wasn’t trying to sabotage their relationship but as someone who has had to watch people live their whole lives in abusive households, i didn’t want her to have to go through that too. i thought she had the right to know who she was with. my brothers girlfriend is a very tiny girl, maybe 100lbs. hes almost 6 feet tall and 170lbs. god forbid she ever set him off on a “bad day” and she would have no way to defend herself against him.

fast forward to the next day, my brother got out of the hospital and started texting me death threats because his girlfriend had told him what i said to her. it got so bad that i had to call my dad in the middle of the night because i was terrified that he was actually going to do the things he said.

my mothers entire side of the family has always been on his side and they see no wrong in the things he’s doing. obviously he told them that i was trying to destroy their relationship and saying these horrible lies about him. of course they all took his side and they think i’m a terrible person for putting more stress on him than he’s already going through.

so aita for letting my brothers girlfriend know what kind of person she’s really dealing with?