Hi everyone, first-time poster here, please be kind!

I 24F and 26M met on a dating app. We've been chatting for about a month now. Both of us have pretty packed schedules, so we haven’t had the opportunity to meet in person until just recently.

Early on in our conversations by text, I shared that I’m waiting until marriage to be intimate—for a variety of personal reasons. I also told him that if he wasn’t okay with that, we probably shouldn’t continue talking. He said that he was fine with it, so we kept getting to know each other. By this point, it was clear to him that I value relationships deeply and that I’m not into hookup culture or anything casual. Not that there is anything wrong with that, just not for me.

About two weeks in, he asked if I’d be open to doing anything physical with a guy if we weren’t officially in a relationship. I told him no—that I’m only comfortable with things like holding hands, kissing, or hugging if I’m in an official relationship. He responded with “oh ok cool,” so I assumed he was okay with that boundary.

Fast forward to our first date—we decided to meet at a coffee shop and hang out for about two hours. It was a bit awkward since we were both clearly nervous, but we made it through. Afterward, as we were leaving, he reached for my hand, and I pulled away. I gently reminded him that I don’t do that unless we’re official. He seemed frustrated, and the vibe shifted after that.

We parted ways and are still texting daily, but something feels a little off now. So, AITA for sticking to my boundary and not holding his hand since we’re not official?

Just to clarify: I’m not part of a religion that restricts touching—I'm just personally uncomfortable with it. The only people I’m somewhat okay with touching me are family or those I consider close enough to be family.