Me (22f) had a nice relationship with my small little group of friends. I don't really like being in big groups as I get overwhelmed easily. I love my friends really but sometimes they add new people to out group when they know too many people can upset me. I usually try to brush it off until this one girl got added.

Let's just call her A, A seemed extremely nice at first. She would help me when I was overstimulated and u genuinely believed that she truly cared for me.

One day I had heard from my closest friend L that A was telling everyone about my mental health. A bit of context, I had been struggling with my mental health for a while and I guess I had built up enough trust in her to tell her. Obviously I confronted her about it because so many people were asking if I was ok and I didn't like that kind of attention. She just shot back at me like "I thought it would help, no need to get pissed" Eventually I just tried to forget about it and maybe it was just a big misunderstanding.

Then the very next day I decided to get bangs because I had seen them all over tiktok and had wanted to try them. I didn't realize how much attention I would get so I kind of tried to politely tell people to just not show it off too much and most people completely respected it. However A got a bit annoyed that she couldn't give me compliments. I did tell her she could just don't push it but she was too pissed to bother to listen to me.

I came home yesterday to see she had stolen everytyibg little thing i do. I also found out that she was talking shit abt me behind my back and calling me a slut even though I hadn't been in a relationship for over a year now. I told her straight up what I had found out and now she doesn't like the fact that her actions can make people not like her very much anymore. Now me and my friends try to stay away from her but i still sometimes wonder.. Am I the asshole?