we're both women in our early twenties. for context, my friend I'll call Alex, has a bad dating record. In the last five years she's had three relationship that ended badly. She didn't always told me if anything "bad" happened in the relationship but if I picked up on it, I always told her if I saw any red flags, which she either dismissed or got angry about. this case seems to be the later (so this isn't the first time we "fought" over something like this but we usually make up and she sees I was right to be concerned)

Alex started dating a new guy about two months ago. They talked a week previous (and didn't know each other before this). they seem pretty intimate, she spends the weekends on his place and has meet some of his family. Then Alex tell me she said "I love you". I tell her I can't believe it and ask her as delicately as I can if they're not going too fast. They don't even have a label yet (Alex told me it's too soon to be his girlfriend... but apparently not to say I love you?). she agrees but laughs off my comment.

A few days later we're talking about when it's best to ask someone out and then I make a joke about how she doesn't care about what's a "proper" time since she's already said I love you and it hasn't been long since they began dating. She then says they'll be three months into their relationship in a few days (the fact remains that she told him I love you only two months in AND never said if he also told her. I didn't ask but that detail leads me to believe he hasn't) and I just send her a side eye gif, which I expected her to laugh about (but I know realize might have come more judgemental than I intended). honestly I just wish Alex was more cold headed, this is her first relationship in a year, why rush it? Well, she got angry and told me to stop pestering about it and that she simply won't tell me anything anymore.

later I send her an apology and then explain I'm simply wary of the new guy bc of her previous experiences (imo going too fast is also a red flag but I didn't say that) but that ultimately it's her call and I'm no one to tell her anything. She left me on read two days ago. I know Alex is probably cooling off and will talk to me later but I hate the waiting. I'll rather just know if she'll forgive me and establish new boundaries or will tell me to go fuck myself.

so aita?