My girlfriend has a drinking problem. Things had gotten rough, and I got her a hotel room near me to help her slow down and reset. Instead, she ended up drinking at the hotel bar. While I was on the phone with her, a guy started hitting on her—and she just let it happen. Later, she told me he was nice and it was his friends who were the problem.

I told her flat out: it’s not okay to sit there and entertain someone flirting with you when you’ve been in a committed relationship for five years. She didn’t shut him down. She didn’t make it clear she was taken. And I had to hear it happen in real time.

Then a couple days later, I found out she skipped our plan and went to a neighborhood bar instead. I walked in and found her drunk, sitting at a table with another guy buying her drinks. She didn’t seem surprised or embarrassed—just totally at ease.

She says none of it was cheating. But to me, if you're letting someone think you’re single, accepting their attention, and their drinks, while hiding the fact that you have a partner? That’s crossing a line. Especially when that partner has been doing everything to help you get back on your feet.

I told her I’m done until she’s in a real recovery space. I’ve hit my limit.

So, AITA for saying it felt like cheating and cutting off contact until she gets help?