I (31F) have been married to my husband (34M) for almost four years now. From the beginning, I knew he was super close to his family, which I thought was sweet. But lately, it feels like they’re constantly at our house. Every weekend there’s a dinner, a barbecue, or someone “just dropping by.” It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I have no privacy or time to actually relax in my own home.

Last weekend was the breaking point for me. We had his parents, his brother, and two of his cousins over — uninvited — just because they were "in the neighborhood." I was in the middle of doing laundry, trying to clean, and honestly just having a bad day. Instead of relaxing, I spent the evening cooking, cleaning up after everyone, and trying to be a good host when all I really wanted was to be left alone.

After they left, I told my husband that I can’t keep doing this. I told him I love his family, but I don't want to host them every weekend, especially without notice. He got really defensive and said that I was being “anti-family” and “selfish,” and that his family “just wants to spend time with us.”

Now he’s giving me the cold shoulder, and even his mom made a comment about how "some people forget where they come from." I feel guilty because I don’t want to come between him and his family, but I also feel like my needs are being completely ignored.

AITA?