32F and I'm a working mom with 4 kids. My husband is a trucker and due to this, he isn't home often and nearly everything is on my shoulders. I'm in no way resentful of my husband, just to clarify. This is about my grandmother, not him. But where he isn't home and I'm doing quite literally everything (cleaning, cooking, runs to the laundromat, grocery shopping, 3 kids sports events - games and practices, doctors appointments, etc etc etc), I have zero extra time outside of an occasional few hours on Sundays when my husband is home.

Now, important background, I went no contact with my grandmother for almost a year back 3 years ago (before I had my youngest, who is now 1.5) because she decided to uproot her life where she lived in a care facility to move 2 houses down from me and just assumed that I would take on the responsibility of her and her shit. She is in a wheelchair and can do nothing on her own outside of toileting herself and bathing herself. She is fully reliant on people outside of this. So every day I was getting 5+ calls a day to go to the grocery store or bring her to doctors appointments or clean her house or take out her garbage or go to the pharmacy for her very important medications. She even then tried getting my older children to spend the night at her place so she could, essentially, have 3 little slaves doing everything for her. (She is in a wheelchair due to her own negligence, not medical or elderly normalcy, she's only 69 AND she had the chance to have a full knee replacement but decided against it because she was "comfortable" with her life). I had many conversations telling her I was not her care giver and even suggested at one point that she get ahold of the state so I could get paid to do these things but she refused, stating that she wasn't going to give up her disability check every month to ensure I'm paid and insisted she just give me $20 a week to do these things. I said no, told her to stop expecting me to do all these things for her and she ultimately refused to budge so I went no contact and moved an hour away.

Since then she has run in to health issues (CHF due to her weight gain, as she refuses to stick to her doctors diet plan and has diabetes as well now) and against my better judgement I unblocked contact. It's been 5 months since then and I just found out 2 weeks ago that she moved closer to me, yet again. 10 minutes away this time. But again, the calls started. She's now asking me to go clean her home and do her grocery shopping, trying to be manipulative by using my baby as an excuse ("Well I need to bond with my granddaughter so I can do that when you're cleaning my house"). The phone calls start at 6am and sometimes don't end until 10pm and I've now started forwarding all her calls to voice ail because I'm done. Well, my aunt called me today saying that I'm being "rotten" because my grandmother misses me and just wants to see me. I told her that if that were the case, she would stop asking me to run all over hells creation and telling me to go clean her house and told her that since it's her mom, she needs to help her our because it's not my fucking job. Now everyone is mad at me because I'm the closest to my grandmother and they feel I'm being intentionally hostile.