📝 AITA for telling my mom that she isn't wife or mother material and ignoring my dad

By No_Laugh5961 • Score: 0 • April 8, 2025 10:28 AM


I'm new to this app and English isn't my first language, so please excuse my grammar. And I need some opinion or advice if what I did is wrong or not.

‎ ‎A bit of backstory; ‎ ‎My mom (F56) and dad(M55) aren't married or even living together. My mom has a child (F32) before she met my father, and my dad also has a daughter (F22). Before he and mom met, my dad is already married to another woman and he cheated on that woman with my mother and then they have me. Dad and his first wife separated (Divorce isn't allowed in my country), and he got along with my mom after—years later they have me (F18).

‎ ‎My mom and I live with our relatives and have a fair share of taking turns in paying the bills of the house. My mom owns a rice farm which is her source of income while my dad works at a police station.

‎ ‎On to the present, I just got home from buying some vegetables to cook for dinner and noticed that my mom didn't even clean the house or even start cooking. I just found her in her room just playing on her phone—and it's only a matter of time that my aunt comes home to a messy house and no food on the table. I felt annoyed—but I didn't have the time as I speedrun cleaning the house and cooked rice and made a simple dinner for everyone.

‎ ‎And then I confronted my mom afterwards on why she didn't clean or cook. She told me she's tired and wanted rest as she's getting old. I told her to that she's been on her phone all day, not leaving the room, always complaining. I even went far as to compare her to other mothers and even my friends' mother who are the same age as her and that they continue to do their obligations despite being around mid fifties.

‎ ‎She threw a fit and explained that she's been working and doing her time cleaning and cooking when she was young. Ad continues to ramble that if she dies that I along with my sister (F32) will just cry on her funeral, and other typical phrases that mothers will often say. And this is where I said she's never fit to be a mother or a housewife as she relies on others to do all the things for her.

‎ ‎I continued to say that she should grateful to have her sister (my aunt) live in her house as she doesn't have any stable job or a house of her own. I even explained my part that doing the cleaning and cooking is my way of repaying my aunt in letting me live under her roof. And even do far to tell her the harsh comments that I heard from her brothers and sisters about her not trying hard to do something for her life.

‎ ‎She didn't replied and just push me out of the room and didn't talk to me afterwards, three days later she won't even talk to me or even look at me.

‎ ‎And If you're wondering about my half-sister (F32) she got married on January of this year, she used to live with us under the same roof with our aunt but she moved out, my sister and I helped each other doing chores and cooking. Now that she moved out and is living her own life. I did most of the chores and cooking while my mom does the bare minimum. As for my other half-sister (F22) she lives with my dad and is currently looking for a job.

‎ ‎And as for my father (M55) I haven't spoken to him after what happened on February before my birthday, during the third week February I was busy with school and extracurricular activities. Her daughter (F22) texted me and ask if I was available to hang out with her and out father, I politely told her no and said that I was busy and then seconds later my father texted on when I was available, I told him him the same thing, but he thought I was lying and "don't" want to spend time with her daughter. I texted him back saying that I wasn't lying and telling the truth.

‎ ‎ He didn't believe me and continued to accuse me for not wanting to spend time with my half sister and send me a bunch of hurtful messages. I was crying while reading them to the point I have to block him. It's been a month since that happened and I didn't unblock him. Now he's texting my mom—asking when's my highschool graduation and why I'm not talking to him.

‎ ‎AITA?

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