I (22F) recently had a pretty heavy conversation with one of my closest friends, let’s call her Maggie (24F), who got married about two months ago.

She opened up to me about something that happened shortly before her wedding. An old friend of hers popped back into her life just a week before she got married. He started reacting to her stories, messaging her about Harry Potter (a shared interest), and eventually the conversation got deep — late-night texting, emotional stuff. He confessed he used to have feelings for her, and she admitted the same.

She told him she was engaged and getting married in a few days, and that she wished they could just stay friends. But right after the wedding, the guy blocked her on everything and completely disappeared.

Yesterday, she told me she can’t stop thinking about him. She said that she still has feelings for him and believes she might even still love him. But obviously, she’s now married.

She told me she was thinking of confessing all of this to her husband to “be honest.” I told her I really didn’t think that was a good idea. I said it could destroy her marriage unnecessarily, especially since the other guy is gone and isn’t even part of her life anymore. I told her she should let it go, move forward with her marriage, and try to make peace with it internally.

She got really quiet, and now I’m wondering if I overstepped. I know honesty is important, but I truly thought I was looking out for her — and her husband too.

But now I’m questioning myself. AITA for giving her that advice?