I feel horrible, my roommate just had nose surgery & that meant taking on responsibilities for her. I understand that & knew I would be helping her for awhile after. She asked me to take Wednesday off work to drive her to/from surgery. Her boyfriend stayed the night before surgery and lives in the city she was getting surgery (an hour away) but didn’t want to wake up early to take her so I still took her like I said I would, still felt like that was lacking on his part. I picked up everything she needed while she was in surgery. The day lasted from 5 am to 6 pm, I went to get her soup after work the next day & am taking her dog out when she needs to go potty. I work from home so my roommate was coming into my room every hour asking questions about her nose. I don’t have a lot of time even though I work from home, I have to take phone calls and manage the schedule from 8 am to 6 pm. I called my boyfriend that day and told him I was grabbing her stuff from the store, he told me our friendship didn’t seem equal and I do way more for her than she does for me. This is coming from watching her dog when she works, since I work from home I am taking her dog out while she works when it’s needed & she does overnights so I am staying home overnight when needed. I have tried to say no to these things & she’s worked around it by getting a dog sitter but when the dog sitter says no she tells me I’ll be doing nothing anyways. I plan to do nothing so our pets are taken care of but have cancelled and avoided other plans so that I’m able to get home. Anytime she has a car appointment I am picking her up from the store. All of these things seem so small but I am taking care of her dog multiple times a week. It feels like since I work from home I seem available to her when needed but I feel busy even if I’m home. I was at my tipping point this morning when I was sneaking away from my desk to take the dogs out & she was asking me questions in the middle of it. We got into a big fight after I told she’s been depending on me too much even prior to surgery & that it’s adding up. She said she wants a friend that won’t make a big deal out of doing things for her & that she would do the same for me. She said she wouldn’t ask me for anything ever again and things are very rocky now. She doesn’t think I’m a good friend & I do feel horrible that it’s caught up to me especially after her surgery. I just don’t understand why so much has fallen on me for responsibility, she said her dads car wouldn’t have room for her in it to take her to/from surgery, our friends have told her to let her know if she needs anything as well & she told me her boyfriend would be down here helping but he’s not. It seems to have the most affect on me when I’m working & I think an easier resolution would have been to request the rest of the week off. She is not understanding where I’m coming from and I do feel bad about saying anything now.