My brother got married to my sil 3 years ago but now she's trying to deliberately interfere in our family affairs and how we live and how we do things our ways, she's trying Change our family dynamics and 'advicing us to help us'.

After my brother got married to my sil we stopped talking to him and he also cut us off, despite us telling him to not get married to that woman he didn't listen and got married without informing us and we were angry for making a stupid decision.

But my sil a few months ago tried to get in contact with us and she visited our home, we invited her in and talked to her and since she was trying so hard we also extended our hand and tried to accept her for our family sake.

She comes over often and spends alot of time with my wife and my mom and my sister and I don't have a problem with that.

But the problem is that she's trying to change how we live, she first started by taking my wife to shopping and bought clothes for my wife and made her wear it, my wife never wore such dresses but she did it for her new friend'sake (my sil) then she started uploading photos with my wife's face in those photos.

I tolerated all that even tho I wasn't comfortable but now she's said that she wants to take my wife on a trip to a nearby city, I gave her a firm no, she said it would be good first time experience for my wife just 2 women going on a trip.

I still said no and told her we don't do that stuff and she doesn't know how we live since she's an outsider, she said that maybe we should change a bit and she's trying to help us.

I told her that I don't trust her enough to let my wife go to a complete different place and I don't know her enough to trust her and she's interfering in our lives and I think she should leave.

After I made her leave my brother called me and screamed at me and he said that I was rude to his wife when his wife was just trying to mix with us, I told him that I also extended my hand but she's trying to interfere in our lives and 'changing us' or whatever it means and I can't tolerate that.

My brother said that I'm a scum and maybe we should stay away from each other, I replied I agree, you stay with your wife and I'll stay with mine, but my mom is basically forcing me to mend my relationship with my brother and do whatever I want but don't lose my brother.