To start, I’m Black and my wife is Mexican (Hispanic). We’ve been together since 2018, got married in 2021, and had our son in 2020.

I met her parents early in the relationship, but I didn’t get many chances to spend time with her siblings. Toward the end of our dating phase, I finally got to hang out with them one late night—just me, my wife, and her adult siblings(whom should know better).

The night took a weird turn when they started asking me a bunch of stereotypical and borderline offensive questions, like whether I liked certain foods or “why Black people do this or that.” The one that really stuck with me and part of the reason I’m posting here is because one of the questions they asked me was, “Why are all Black kids bad?”

It caught me off guard and didn’t come from a place of curiosity or kindness. It was ignorant and offensive, and honestly, it’s never sat right with me.

Since then, I’ve made it clear to my wife that I don’t ever want her siblings babysitting our son or being alone with him. I just don’t trust that someone who holds views like that can give him the care, love, or understanding he might need especially in difficult situations. I also told her I don’t care to have much of a relationship with them at all.

She understands to some degree but thinks I might be overreacting or holding onto the past too tightly. But I see this as protecting my child from potential harm—emotional or otherwise.

So… AITA?

Tldr; AITA for telling my wife I don’t want her siblings babysitting our son because of a racist comment they made?