📝 AITA for "venting" to "strangers"?

By Good-Sprinkles2213 • Score: 0 • April 21, 2025 8:50 PM


In highschool, I was In love with someone. I also knew they weren't interested in relationships, but I was still part of their friend group, and had become decent friends with all of them. One day, a very close friend I knew primarily online had sadly commited suicide, and I was really depressed. The girl I liked noticed and asked me what was wrong, because I didn't feel like straight up telling them that my best friend died, and now would be a good time to mention that most of this conversation was in a groupchat with all my other friends. So I decided just to tell her that I was just really sad and down. After this, one of my closer friends noticed that I had feelings for her, and thought I could get in a relationship with her, and tried helping me get with her. Eventually, my other friends caught wind of the fact I liked someone, and began pressing me for an answer. I decided to give them a very indirect answer, as I don't like to hide things from people, am not very good at lying, and don't want them to know. Soon they figure out in means that weren't from my unobvious hint. Later, two of her closer friends tell me that she isn't interested in me in a private DM, but without even asking her, and that I should stop being sad about her not feeling the same, and then told me that no one in the friend group was my friend, and that me "venting" was annoying and no one wanted to talk about it, despite them actually venting in the group chat. They also told me to stop being "buddy-buddy" with my friends, because they didn't like it, they also do the exact thing to any passerby that are clearly not their friends. After they rambled about the same exact thing for around 20 minutes, I decided to try to shut them up by telling them that I was sad because my friend died, upon which they tell me that my friend dying is not an excuse not just to "vent", but to be sad in general. After I told them that their reasoning didn't make any sense, they invited the girl I liked, and another person that didn't already know that I liked her, "so I would listen," because they said I had been going in circles with their argument, and that by getting 2 more people in the argument, who both said they wanted nothing to do with it, would get them to agree with them, which they didn't. After this, the friends who they said were annoyed by my presence, said that they enjoyed being around me, then the narcissistic friend kicks me from the group chat.

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