I 14F am in a dilemma between it is partly my friend’s and I’s fault or wholly my own fault for something that happened a few months ago.

This happened back in January. I have always struggled with my behaviour in school and I’ve had issues with taking my jacket off in the past. I live in the UK and we have school uniforms so the jacket isn’t apart of it which is why I get asked to take it off. In this class that we had a new teacher as our previous teacher is on maternity leave. In that class, my friend and I sat by each other. My friend decided to keep his jacket on with me, which is very out of character for him as he follows every school rule there is and rarely gets in trouble. The teacher asked us to take our jackets off and I said no (I’m honestly so sorry for how horrible I’ll be as teachers have it so hard and I’m not making their job any better,) and my friend started back chatting a bit trying to justify why we are wearing our jackets which obviously led us both to be sent outside as we weren’t complying. So we were both outside and joked around until our teacher came outside to speak to us. Our teacher asked us to take our jackets’ off so we can come back in and learn but we both kept the same attitude as we were when we was inside the class so she gave up and got the teacher next door. Which was her brother and was really reliant on him whenever things went wrong. So her brother now started speaking to us saying to just take it off and threatening with detentions and phone call homes. Which didn’t make either my friend and I fearful and we both were just being unserious. 30 minutes go by and every few minutes my teacher’s brother would come and tell us to stop being annoying by threatening us phone call homes and detentions, which still didn’t either make us feel we should listen to them. Eventually, 10 minutes left until the end of class, my friend and I were on our phones. My brother’s teacher comes back and we were both on our phones. Like I mentioned before, UK so we aren’t allowed on our phones at all so he asked for our phones. We both said no. So he asked again and said that this would increase our punishment (adding onto the phone call home.) So he counted down from 5 and I gave my phone in and tried encouraging my friend to but he kept it. I eventually got my phone back and later that day my friend said that his mum got a phone call about what happened. I didn’t get a phone call because my mum never answers the phone.

So this morning, I went on Whatsapp to see I’ve been kicked in a GC with my friend group by my friend. Then I was added back by another friend. And then removed again by a completely different friend. So I asked my friend who added me back into the GC why I was removed and he showed text messages of my friend (the one who got the phone call home) saying “She’s a bad influence // She was the main reason I got a phone cal home”

I think that people are in control of their own actions and how is it mainly my fault for something you could’ve obliged to? He’s a person that can easily just tell me to stop being annoying, rude and whatever, and also knows how to behave.

I may be the AH because this may have not ever happened if I just took my jacket off and told my friend to do the same. I also feel really guilty that my friend got a phone call home because of me.

AITA?