Okay, not my drama but I need a second opinion because my buddy is feeling guilty and I honestly think he’s in the right. My best friend (30M) got married last year. One of his supposed close friends, "Jay" (29M), RSVP’d yes, promised he’d be there, even talked about it excitedly for months... and then totally ghosted on the wedding day.

No call, no text. Later we all found out through Instagram that Jay was at a music festival that same weekend. My friend was hurt, but he didn’t really confront him about it — just kind of accepted it and moved on.

Fast forward to this month: Jay asked him (pretty last minute) to help him move apartments. Like, haul boxes, carry a couch type of thing. My friend told him no, and said he wasn’t going to go out of his way for someone who couldn’t even show up on one of the most important days of his life.

Now Jay is acting like my buddy is the petty one, and a few mutual friends are saying he should "let it go" and "help out because that's what friends do." Honestly, I think Jay showed his true colors a long time ago.

AITA for agreeing with my friend that he’s not obligated to help?