📝 AITA for thinking my mom ruined my wedding?

By Euphoric_Insect3345 • Score: 1 • April 9, 2025 8:16 PM


i (25 F) recently got married and I fully believe my mom ruined it. She has had a drinking problem since I can remember. everytime she drinks too much, she says the most unhinged shit. My in-laws were in town from Florida to obviously come to the wedding and help set up (they are the nicest people and actually don't drink very often). She was giving my MIL awful looks the entire time we were decorating but overall was semi normal. The day of the wedding though she gets wasted and starts a fight with my FIL, saying hes a "tiny man" and a bunch of other awful shit. This happened because my baby was about to leave the wedding (before the reception) to go home to the sitter and my mom wasn't done trying to play "pass the baby" and get as much attention from everyone there as possible. After the wedding when everyone was cleaning up she came storming out of the back room yelling that "shes not going to help clean up since she set everything up" which is not true whatsoever. She also told my now husband that she was going to "p**** his dad in the face" over the fight they had, and during the wedding told my BIL that hes "jesus" and the favorite??? It was very odd. She also kept bringing up how she paid for the venue and was pretty much throwing it in my face when i specifically told her not to pay for it (i knew she would do this) but she insisted. i spent my wedding night sobbing over my narcissistic mother and now we are about to move to Florida to raise my kids around healthy normal adults (i don't have a lot of other family here thats normal). She keeps texting me pretending like nothing happened and i'm just ignoring most of her text knowing if i flip out over text she will find a way to spin it (or even delete some text and show people how big of an "asshole" i am) (also for more context)- She got her makeup done for my wedding & hated it so she almost made me late to the venue for my wedding because she spent forever redoing her makeup at MY HOUSE. she also insisted on putting her dress on before me at the venue knowing they were waiting for me for pictures. (my dress was huge so i couldn't put it on alone) and she proceeded to take forever getting dressed. Her and her friend (who is also an alcoholic) drank my entire bottle of champagne while i was getting my pictures done and didn't even offer to buy me a new one. She also screamed at me while walking down the aisle to "look up" when i was just trying to make sure i wasn't stepping on my dress.

AITA for thinking she ruined my wedding day/night and for moving my family to florida?

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