TLDR: I think my boyfriend is putting work as a priority than me, based on wanting to cut 4hrs of our 20h/week hangout time instead of 2hrs of his 70h work week. And he vehemently denies it and can’t understand why I think that. I am considering throwing in the towel based on the principle of different values and goals right now. AITA?

My boyfriend (M25) and I (F26) have been dating for 2 years. We both live at our family homes and hang out on average 20h a week (2 weekdays 4hrs, 2 weekends 6hrs).

He works 60-70h per week creating content on YouTube, and is a bit obsessive about it (causes sleep disruptions if he feels he’s “not done”, he works day till night, constantly thinks about it and talks about it). He is making a comfortable wage from it (80k/yr) but always feels like “it’s not enough” (he has a money scarcity issue).

Recently he asked if we could see eachother 1 day less because he wants to work out an additional day during the week (on the days he doesn’t see me). I asked him why he couldn’t take an hour or two away from his work to workout instead, and he said he doesn’t want to and that he thinks lots of people hang out 3 days a week and it’s fine.

I told him that he prioritizes his work over me. I said if you need to take time out of one of two things (work or me), and he picks taking it out of time with me, that would mean he puts his work at a higher priority, factually speaking. Which of course for me is disappointing because I’m 26yo just poured 2 years into this person to build a future, and I told him in the beginning if work is his priority that’s ok, but don’t have a gf where you need to have bf responsibilities.

He vehemently denies that work is his priority and doesn’t understand at all how I see it that way and thinks I just get upset whenever he asks for changes (which is not true, I fully encourage him to do other things instead of us hanging out if something comes up, but in the case of this where you can work it in if you plan out your days differently I think it’s very different).

I ended it at to me this is you putting work as a priority ahead of me. And if that’s what he wants to do then thats fine but just admit it and move on. I’m looking to build a life with someone and I’m not going to fall in love with potential anymore (the potential of him one day laying off work and putting me as a priority). We just have different values and goals right now and that’s his.

AITA for throwing away 2 years over this? I know in the grand scheme of things it’s 4h per week but to me it’s the principle of it all (as this isn’t the first time something like this has happened)

I’m not looking for advice on if the amount we hang out is excessive, or money issues. I am more so thinking of the principle of being honest with himself and me.