so me (22f) and my best friend “donnie”(24m) haven’t been in contact for 2 years until a few weeks ago. this all started when he got together with his (now ex) girlfriend “sal”.

donnie works as a chef/waiter and has been all around the country since 2021. about 3 years ago he met sal. she was staying at the hotel he was working at back then. sal is a bit younger than us, so the whole relationship had a rough start. also she’s super rich and her parents didn’t like donnie bc he never graduated, but got into the whole chef thing. when they first met they texted a lot and i helped him with hos words and how he should express himself, because he effing sucks at it.

donnie is also the kind of person to just not text back. we would spend every waking hour together, but only of i literally draged him out of bed bc never really looked at his phone. this is important for later.

we have known each other since we were kids and grew up together, so the people in our town always thought we’d end up together. donnie and i however wouldn’t touch each other with a 5 meter pole. when we were kids we made the whole “when we’re 30 and single” deal but that’s about as romantic as it gets. we both made it more than clear on several occasions that this is pure platonic friendship. i helped him get off drugs and through every bender there was. so it was a very special friendship for me.

now, when sal and donnie got together, he was away for work so i figured he just forgot texting me back. i didnt care and just forgot about it until i got a message from sal a few weeks later telling me to “leave him alone” and to “never EVER text him again” sal has never met me and i was a bit taken aback at the time. i did however understand where she was coming from so i answered saying “i understand and i wish you the best” another thing, during their whole relationship i was in a relationship myself. it just ended a few months ago because he cheated, so yeah idk.

during their relationship i only ever texted donnie twice: once bc of a funeral of a close friends mom. i told him to come to our town, because our friend asked me to text everybody of our old childhood friendgroup (he asked me because we are still incredibly close and he had so much other funeral stuff to do). donnie called me that same day and asked what had happened. it was a ten minute talk, laying out the details, nothing more. the second time was about a year ago. his brother (21, “alex”) started spiralling again. their parents are barely around so they didn’t really notice, and i only heard from a close friend. so i texted donnie telling him to please call alex and talk to him bc he’s been shutting everybody out. alex usually needs donnie to get better, and since nobody else thought of texting him, i just did it. it wasn’t ill intended but i did regret it later.

ANYWAYS, a few weeks ago his dad told me donnie had broken up with sal, gotten himself a flat and is thriving. when i heard that i texted him a week later, asking him how he’s been and what not. he called me and invited me and a few other friends to stay over at his place (it’s about a 3 hour drive) some time. i said yes, so did the guy whose mom died. we spent a weekend over at his place and it was amazing. we were up all night, as if we were 12 again and we had a lot of fun.

we posted an instagram story of us at some lake and apparently one of his ex’s friends saw it. she then started texting me. like, a lot. it went from “how could you break the girls code” to literal threats. i explained to her that i dont see her as a friend, since we never met or talked after the “no texting” thing. and that its not like i went there the second after they broke up. i tried to explain to her that this was literally like a reunion and while i’m sorry she’s upset, i dont feel like i owe her anything. she proceeded to call his parents, telling them how i sent her pictures of just donnie and me, threatening her and ridiculing her. how i am a huge bitch and what not and that they need to control their son. obviously his mom called me, asking me what happened, because she didn’t believe a word. his mom is super close with my parents, so she knows that i wouldn’t do that, which i appreciated ngl. we explained the situation to her and she decided to block sal, bc apparently she never liked her (i didn’t know that until then).

since all of this she and her friends have been harassing me, calling me a slut and other things. she found my parents facebook page and comments incredibly inappropriate things about me and keeps on calling me an asshole.

so reddit, aita? or am i overreacting to someone grieving a relationship?