so, i (23f) am getting married in a few months, and my wedding planning has been a bit of a whirlwind. everything’s coming together, and i’m excited but also stressed. one of my friends, laura (24f), has a pretty popular YouTube channel where she posts lifestyle and relationship content. she’s always asking her followers for ideas for videos, and lately, she’s been really pushing to do a video on “the most unforgettable wedding moments”.

a few days ago, she asked me if she could stage a fake proposal during my wedding, right after my ceremony. she said it would be a great way for her to capture a “spontaneous romantic moment” that would totally go viral and get a ton of views. apparently, she’d been planning it for weeks and already told the person she’d want to pretend to propose to her.

i was honestly speechless. i told her that i wasn’t okay with her using my wedding as content for her channel. i explained that this was a once-in-a-lifetime moment for me and my partner, and i didn’t want any part of it being staged for views. she said she understood but really emphasized that it would be “just for fun” and would be a harmless addition to the day.

she got super upset and accused me of being “selfish” and said i was “ruining her content ideas.” she also said that her followers would think it was a missed opportunity for “good, wholesome engagement content.” now, a few of my friends think i should’ve just let her do it, especially since “it’s just a harmless video” and “it’s not about me.”

AITAH for refusing to let my friend stage a fake proposal at my wedding for her YouTube channel?