This is my first time writing on Reddit. For context, I (19F) and my college friend (19F) are in the same degree program. We’re in our second year and in the same class group. I’m French, and in these kinds of classes, we receive individual grades every week.

This friend and I have always been close. We usually send each other our assignments before submitting them, just to compare and make sure we understood the instructions. We also help each other with questions.

However, she’s extremely forgetful. She often forgets to charge her phone or laptop, so she can’t take notes. She also regularly forgets her chargers, or even to put gas in her car. It’s not a financial issue—she comes from a well-off family—but she always seems unprepared. I’m very organized, so I don’t get how she keeps forgetting these things. Honestly, it feels like she doesn’t try to change, maybe because she knows someone will always help—like me lending her a charger, or friends giving her gas money.

The issue is that she often forgets to send me her assignments. I always send mine, but she either forgets or sends them late, saying she “ran out of time.” She often reassures me we did the same thing, but when we get our work back, it’s clearly not the case. It’s frustrating, especially since I take the time to review her work and give feedback.

I should also mention we’re at the same level overall. Our average grades are about the same. But there’s one subject I really struggle with—my grades are way lower than hers. Again, she told me she did the same as me (but didn’t send it), and again, it wasn’t true.

During our final class, grades came out. I didn’t pass. She did—with 80%. I got 40%. I felt devastated.

She started celebrating loudly: “Oh my god! I can’t believe it!” over and over. I found it super insensitive, especially since she knew I’d failed. I tried to stay calm, but I was visibly upset. She asked if I was okay, and I snapped. I told her I didn’t appreciate the way she reacted and how she never sends her work to me, even though I do it for her.

She said she didn’t mean it and just forgets things. I believe her, but it still upsets me.

An hour later, I couldn’t take it. I packed up and left the class early to go home and cry. That night, no one—not even her—checked on me.

Two days later, she texted asking if I was mad. I explained how I felt, but she kept saying it wasn’t her fault because she “forgets.” She even said that since no one else thought it was a big deal, I was probably overreacting.

So… AITA for being mad, calling her out, and walking out of class like that?

PS: I’d also love some advice. She’s kind, but she forgets a lot—like not bringing money when we go out, and not because she’s broke. Her constant forgetfulness is really starting to wear me down—especially when she turns things around and makes me feel like I’m the problem.