So my partner (30m) doesn’t initiate sex that often. Usually I (30f) am the one to initiate because I’m more extroverted and direct. He tends to “hint” that he wants sex and then I initiate for him.

I’m not really sure why he seems to feel uncomfortable doing it, but he’s got social anxiety and tends to overthink things a lot. It doesn’t usually bother me but I’ve told him before that it would be nice if he initiated every once in a while.

The issue I have is that sometimes he’ll start to initiate and I guess start the foreplay part and it never advances past that. I end up feeling like he’s just teasing me. There have been a few times where he does that and I try to initiate ands he turns me down.

I’ve told him that it really bothers me that he specifically tries to rile me up and then rejects me. Like it’s not just kissing or making out, he’s intentionally doing things he knows makes me want to have sex. I’ve told him I’d rather him tell me upfront that he’s not in the mood before starting anything so I can adjust my expectations and not get my hopes up. There are also things I’d rather not do if we’re not going to go all the way.

Well, he just started initiating and it went on and on without any progress and it seemed like he was just teasing me again. So I literally just walked out of the room without a word. Trying to explain that I really don’t like that hasn’t worked. Getting mad hasn’t worked. I don’t know what else to do. He’s big on open communication and seemed upset when I walked out, so AITA?