Me (27M) and my GF (28F) are living in an apartment very close to one of the most popular schools in my country, we live like 2-5 minutes away by foot to the campus. The rent is not that bad, but we always look for houses/departments on sale to invest in.

Some days ago, she saw that one of the apartments that are in the same street was on sale, so she contacted the real state girl, and we went to see it yesterday. It was basically the same as the one we live right now, (ours is in better shape, but overall, almost the same) and the price was not that crazy considering the location. It was a great investment opportunity.

We were very happy with the price, and we started to make plans. For example, we could rent that apartment, stay in the one we rent right now (until the contract expires) and the rent pays itself, at least for one year.

There was one issue, my GF has less savings than I do and told me she needs to look for different loan options to buy it. I have the saving needed to buy the apartment right away, no loan, no credit.

That same day I went to the gym and started thinking about the apartment, and came to the realization that it might get sniped by another buyer faster. So, I thought of buying it right away or at least making a good offer to start negotiations. I was worried about the popularity of the zone. To add context, those apartments are very popular since a lot of international students rent them to study on that campus so the chances of multiple buyers getting a deal faster was very high.

When I arrived home, I told my GF to make an offer right now, and that she doesn’t need to worry about getting a loan, that I would pay fully for it. She got very angry and told me that she was the one that found the apartment and that she “wanted to buy it herself”.

Since the beginning of the relationship we stated that bot wanted a long-term relationship, kids and a house, so in my mind the “ownership” of said apartment was never a concern considering those long-term goals. That’s why I thought it was the same if she bought it or if I bought the apartment.

Am I the asshole for trying to buy the apartment that my GF wanted?