I met this friend because of my work. I teach natural health and she was struggling. I brought her back to life and she and I became close. What's weird is - I traveled here to help her husband who claims he is in constant pain...

But she ended up being the one who turned around. So anyway - over the last 6 months she started opening up to me about her relationship. I actually ended up moving here to rent her furnished house (I travel around as I please usually...no roots anywhere) and live about 15 mins from them. Here's the short version:

He's verbally abusive. He's emotionally abusive. He hates her having a friend and tries to convince her that "she doesn't know me". He is SA when she is saying no. He yells and screams at her, throws thing, smashes things nearly every other day.

He threatens to leave, packs all his stuff, she calls me crying and I tell her we got this!!! Fuck that guy!!! And offer my full support. Then I hear nothing. Right now it's been 2 days and she actually involved me in this last argument as he was screaming at her and she called me. I went off on him and told him that if he cannot stand her and she sucks so badly to please leave.

He has no money. He doesn't work. And she has a huge nest egg he is just draining. 15k$ boats, quads, tractors, side by sides, food, cigarettes etc! She pays for it all. She's also paid thousands on testing to see what is wrong with him. His tests are all normal. She states he only uses his cane and whines in pain when people are around or if she tells him he's hurting her.

So - I have a history of abusive relationships as it took me forever to figure out I was attracting them because I wasn't healed. I worked on this for a long time and I'm still a work in progress.

Because of his violent outbursts and the fact he grabbed her by the arm this last time - all I can think of is he's got her so manipulated back into his ways that she's literally scared to text me because of his reaction.

Now I'm worried I will be getting evicted for simply just trying to protect my friend. I text today to ask if she was alright and she said she'd call in an hour but that was 4 hours ago.

My anxiety is high - I am worried about her. But I'm realizing that none of this is healthy for me. Now I want to plan my escape and not be renting this house or any of it. It will take me a month to save up enough to bolt as I'm a nomad and rentals are not cheap.

Am I the asshole for wanting to quietly plan my escape and just leave this all behind me? It is triggering old stuff in me and I do NOT like feeling like this. How would you handle it?

BTW I have a 16 yr old son with me who picked up on their weird dynamic right away. He's also massively uncomfortable.

Gahhh...please help. My heart rate is 165 just typing this out... I have Come so far and feel myself backsliding to an anxious mess.