📝 AITA for wanting to go NC with my father?

By Brilliant-Middle3516 • Score: 0 • April 24, 2025 1:58 AM


Hello Reddit, As per my title, AITA for wanting to go NC with my (24NB) father (62M)?

My main concern is if anyone I know sees this, this is a throw away but still. No. No you didn't see this if you know me.

So, my mother and father divorced when I was a baby. I was originally in my mother's care and at age 6 my custody was taken over by my father. My mother was a, let's put it gently, not so great person.

My father and I growing up had a great relationship, when i turned 10/11 ish (it's blurry I don't have a great memory anymore due to constantly suppressing), he met a woman who became his girlfriend, and they are still together to this day.

When this woman came into the picture everything between us went downhill fast. Abuse became the new norm, all forms. I got compared to my mother by both him and her and it's messed me up mentally. I'm in therapy and I've been for 3 years.

My father doesn't support any of my future goals and dreams in the slightest. When i graduated high school, i was looked dead in the eyes and told "You do not deserve to graduate." I graduated with multiple awards, a high skills major, and on top of that i graduated with honours.

I've been wanting to return to school a month after i graduated. I was told "No, that is a dead end job." I want to go back to school to be an aesthetician. Then covid hit. Then my mom passed away in 2021, and i was NC with her.

I've been pursuing school more the last few months, as this is something i want to do. I have a few people who support me, and I appreciate them with all my heart. I feel more loved by them than my father.

I'm tired of feeling like im just a failure and nothing more than a burden.

Would i be TA for going NC after i move out?

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