📝 AITA for not ending friendships for my girlfriend

By Admirable_Lemon_5032 • Score: 1 • April 24, 2025 1:55 AM


I 29M and my girlfriend 22F recently had a child together five months ago and it feels like ever since we had our child she can't stand The two friends I hangout with. I have a small group of friends but I have two really close ones I hangout with the most. My first friend is Oscar 28M I met four years ago at a bar and we've been close friends ever since. And Sarah 26F who I met three years ago while we were both working in HR and we were some of the only people in our twenties and mixed race people in the office so we kind of bonded over that. Me and Sarah have never had any romantic interest in each other as she had a boyfriend of 7 years at the time and I was recently single so not looking for anybody romantically.Oscar and I both lived in a major city in the heart of downtown so we'd often go out and bar hopping with my other friends. One year and some months ago we went out to the bars and that's when I met my now girlfriend who I have a child with Gabriella. Gabi and I hit it off pretty well and started to hangout somewhat often. She would often come to my place hangout. During the first three weeks my buddy Oscar went through a bad breakup and his lease was ending with the girl he recently broken up with. With him having nowhere to go I suggested he move in with me and stay on my couch. It wasn't too bad hanging out with Gabi because for the most part Oscar would be at work, but two weeks into that he lost his job and that's when it became really hard for Gabi and I to hangout because Oscar would be there on the couch day and night. Even still she'd still come over she would make us dinner, we'd all drink and she and him would smoke (I don't smoke). Though she would get increasingly iratated because we would never have any alone time. During that time she would reveal to me that she was pregnant. She was still wrestling with if she wanted to keep it or not. During her time wrestling with that fact Gabi broke up with me for a short while I guess because of the stress and Oscar always being there. During that time I was really upset because I had no idea of the future of my future child. That's when I told both Oscar and Sarah. They really helped my through everything I was feeling. During that time Oscar would meet a girl and move in with her. And a couple months later Gabi would hit me up again and tell me she was going to keep it. That's when I decided to move to the suburbs right next to Gabi's parents because we would need the support because my family lives out of state. During the pregnancy and after I would hangout with Oscar because he was the only one that would still hangout with me now that I was a dad. Sarah recently moved to another city with her boyfriend but just a couple months into moving they would breakup and it turned south really fast like domestic abuse bad. We'd often talk on the phone to catch up and see how we were both doing. She recently visited because her parents live in the same suburb and she bought a car while she was here excited to show me and Gabi she asked if she could drive by to show us, I said yes but Gabi didn't want to because she was putting the baby to sleep. So I was the only one who went out to see it. While she was outside showing me the car she asked if she could used the restroom I said yes and went inside to to tell Gabi. She same in for less than a minute and then left. A couple days ago Gabi and I recently got into a fight and she brought up she doesn't like Oscar because we go out and drink when we hangout and she hates Sarah because she calls me at random times just talk and she said she doesn't want me to be friends with her anymore. I said I would not do that because I did that before with my last ex and ended up losing a lot of friends when we broke up. Gabi ended up getting really mad and said I'm chosing Sarah over her even though it's not like that at all because I've only seen her twice since she moved and both times Gabi has hangout with us. Gabi and I have seemed to no longer be fighting but it still really bugs me that she would say she hates my two really close friends and says she doesn't want me being friends with one. I would say she only hates them because they are the only ones I talk to and the only other friends she doesn't hate of mine are the ones she has only met once. AITA for not ending my friendship for her? Sorry if I missed anything because it's very long and a bit difficult to gather all thoughts.

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