My (30F) fiancé (35M) and I have been together for over 10 years. He finally proposed a few months ago, and we planned a wedding that’s now just 2 weeks away. The wedding is super low key with just our immediate families. We are doing it in the balcony of our new home! I spent less than $200 on decorations and already got a wedding dress.

To be honest, I used to dream of a big wedding, but after waiting so long, all I really want is to be married so we can start the next chapter of our lives, including starting a family. We’re both well into our careers and feel ready for that step.

A couple of weeks ago, his mom suffered a serious brain injury after a fall. She had been improving, but then suddenly took a turn for the worse. She’s currently in the hospital and not as conscious as she was before. It’s unclear when or if she’ll recover enough to be aware of what’s going on. There is no time limit on when she will be out of the hospital.

Last weekend, my fiancé says he won’t get married unless his mom is awake and able to attend in some form. He says it feels wrong to move forward without her. I completely understand why he feels that way, he’s incredibly close to her, and this has all been heartbreaking. I would like his mom to be there also.

But I feel torn. My family has already made travel arrangements, they got a photographer and emotionally, I just feel ready to be married already. I’ve waited over a decade. I even suggested doing the ceremony at the hospital, or just signing the papers at the hospital with his mom there. My dad is going to officiate it, I am just feeling so sad and upset about everything. I legit want to cry.

I feel guilty for even thinking about myself in this situation, but I also feel like I’m being asked to put my life on hold indefinitely for something we can’t control. Please give me some advice!