so my husband & i have been married for nearly 10 years… 33F & 36M. we have 2 young kids.

we’ve always argued & fought a lot, struggled with intimacy (differing drives), etc. he loves to yell & get on me about everything. whether it’s me not pulling my weight around the house with chores, not giving him the recognition he wants, not “apologizing correctly”, taking accountability the way he sees fit. it’s constant. i tip toe around him to avoid a fight…

the past year or so, i’ve sort of “given up”. i don’t get butterflies to see him, i sort of look forward to him being gone, i shut down in conversations, etc. here’s where i need help… do i leave him? or do we seek therapy?

i met someone else, too. who is the complete OPPOSITE. cool, calm, collected, very protective, has been through a similar situation & come out in a much better place. he’s the sweetest man & someone i could see myself falling for… AITA for wanting to leave?!