I do not want to say my age on here but for reference I am a younger teen and my friend is an older teen, our age gap is about 3-4 years apart. I have been friends with this girl for a couple of months now and I have considered her one of my best friends but recently I have been feeling very differently. My friend has major mental issues and is EXTREMELY self-deprecating. I will be hanging out with my friends (we’re in a friend group together) and she’ll be there constantly calling herself stupid and getting upset over the most random things (for example one time me and another friend of mine wanted to surprise her with something but told her we were going to surprise her and she got upset with us because she was unaware of what we were going to surprise her with even though we reassured her it was nothing bad).

There have been instances where she will also completely blow up at us, getting angry and yelling over small things aswell. I know she has anger issues but it is hard for me to be around that type of stuff. She even will bring up times where she has attempted to.. do harmful things to herself. The problem isn’t that she HAS all these issues, my problem lies within the fact that for months we have constantly reassured, comforted, and been there for her. I especially was there for her and I would always talk about her feelings with her and have her vent to me. She has a therapist, and friends that constantly support her but she seems like a lost cause. No matter what anyone does she repeats her same unhealthy patterns. She will realize certain things trigger her anger/sadness and still associate with them, she will still blow up at us instead of removing herself from situations, she doesn’t even TRY to use tips her therapist gives her to keep herself under control, and there are so many other examples but this post would be a BOOK if I kept going. Me and my other friends have tried to talk to her about how her problems have been effecting us and she always apologizes and says she’ll make changes to herself but never goes through with doing any sort of self improvement. One time, she even blew up at us and then continued to go to our groupchat and type up a storm of paragraphs on how we’ll all just leave her eventually like her old friends did and how she just wants to die and nobody will care when shes gone.

AITA for not wanting to be friends with her anymore? I’ve been putting up with this for months and I do love her and I hope she gets better but I can’t just sit here and wait for her to finally decide to change something. Even simply being around her makes me scared because I fear she’ll just get mad and blow up at me, i’ve talked about this fear before, and she still makes no change to herself. I have so much more to add onto this but I don’t want it to be too long. Sorry if this is hard to understand, I am not used to writing stuff like this.