my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and he didn’t grow up with the same privileges as I did so I have kind of had to carry the relationship by doing all the driving. I make more money and I just have more freedom to do things. recently, my boyfriend went to a treatment facility for mental health back in December 2024 and January 2025 he got released early February and came back home then, but that was when I feel like things started to change. before he left to the facility, we had a rough patch and we didn’t date for six months but I decided to try and give it another chance because I love him and I truly feel like there’s a future recently however I’m not sure about that. He has been back in town for about two months now almost 3 and has only applied to a few jobs and has gotten three interviews, but no job yet. He finds other ways to make money, but I never know about it because he likes to keep it from me when he makes money recently. We were going out and I’ve made comments about never having a date before so he’s made comments back saying that he’ll take me once he gets money. Well I found out that he got paid $100 for cleaning out one of his family members garages and I thought for sure he would take me on a date with that money, but when we hung out, he insisted that I pay for myself and he’ll pay for himself since it’s our own money I asked him where all his buddy has gone since he can’t pay for me and he said that he bought a $30 cartridge. we had a long drawn out argument and at the end of it he said that he understood how I felt and gave me a lot of reassurance but two weeks later when he had money again, he spent another $30 on a cartridge and still hasn’t taken me on a date. i’m not asking for all of his money to go to me, but I feel like it’s ridiculous that I am spending hundreds of dollars on him in a month taking him out, but he is never taking me out to dinner once when I confronted him about choosing the substances over me, he said in his own quotes “ I gotta provide for myself before I can provide for you”. I just want to know if it’s reasonable for me to be upset about this because I feel like I’m getting manipulated into thinking that this is normal behavior. Is this normal behavior? What should i do to make myself heard?