I shower and change clothes in the morning, so I know it’s not a body odor problem. My mother always get very angry when I wear pajamas at home. I would stay in my room so she don’t yell at me in the days where I can have (or rather, when I give myself, because there is always something not fun that needs to be done) the luxury to do nothing, read, write and play video games, but most of the time I need to study (or do chores while she is present) and there is no table in my bedroom so I’m in the living room. I want to be comfortable and she get angry longer when I wear a t-shirt and a short (we live in a warm climate so I wish I could wear shorts or skirts, I will do when I have my own place). My cousins and my uncles stay in underwear at home, why can’t I wear pyjamas ? It makes me sad to see her so angry but I feel like it’s not fair since her husband is always half naked and/or in shorts and she doesn’t have a problem with it.

(Sorry if it’s not clear, English is not my native language, I learned it by reading fanfiction and free pdf of Classic English literature lol)

I don’t know what to do to appease her in general. I know that I am not a good child, I don’t cook and I don’t clean often enough (I do the dishes everyday but I do the rest of the cleaning like one time a week). But when I cook it tastes bad and I feel like I wasted the ingredients. I think that I can just work hard at university and take cooking classes when I have enough money for it. Because her teaching me is a bad idea. Sometimes I feel like all food taste bad except salad, I always like salad. So I don’t have taste to begin with.

I digressed a lot. My stepfather never says anything about the way I dress, but he didn’t say anything in the year I was depressed and smelled bad and barely eaten so he is not a good reference. Should I obey her and wear different clothes at home ? They pay for everything so it is a small thing to do in exchange, but I feel like I should have the right to dress how I like it ? What should I tell her to communicate my decision without starting an argument ?