Okay wow I can’t believe I’m writing one of these but a friend of mine has been pissing me off greatly and thought this might help cause they confuse me so greatly.

I’ve had a LOT of drama with this friend and that can be its own post but the main issue I just had was literally 5 minutes ago.

We were supposed to hang out but I turn down last minute as I had a bad feeling and just don’t want to be around her much cause she gets on my nerves. So anyway she was a little upset.

Long story short she calls my mom a crack head. I admittedly ranted about how my mom is like a horrible roommate to my friend. Let’s call her Holly. But the way she insulted my mom really got on my nerves but I said nothing. This is all through text btw. Anyway I then asked her to not tell anyone what I vent to her about. Her response was “Umm ok…” hinting that she already told someone. I then replied “you already told someone didn’t you” she then went on a long paragraph about why she never lies to her mom.

I then asked what she told her mom and she dodged the answer for a good 15 minutes of texting. I wasn’t truly mad she told her mom I just wanted to know what this girl knows about me now as I don’t know her mom well. I’ve met her once. She was super defensive through this entire thing saying I was over reacting. She eventually said that she “didn’t tell her your hole fucking life story” I kept asking what did she say. She again dodged saying that what they talk about is non of my business. I expressed that I was the topic. This is what confuses me. She then said they talk about other things besides me. Okay?? That’s not what I was asking about. I legit felt like I was talking to a horrible Ai chat bot but sadly she’s a real person.

I digress. I said I was confused and explained I just wanted to know what she said about me. As she didn’t deny earlier about talking about some of the stuff I vented about. She eventually said “Omg all I fucking said was my friend (my name) and I  are gonna hang out soon bc she needs to get out of the house it’s stressing her  out thats it. HAPPY!?!?”

I keep getting more confused. Not just me right. I don’t get migraines luckily but wow I think this convo gave me one. I asked why saying that was so hard and she said I was bitching at her. Like girl what?? She claimed I was being a bitch cause I assumed she told more. But she never said what she told. She only said she never lies to her mom and I told Holly a LOT of stuff.

I then tried to defuse saying I’ll apologize for being over the top if she says and she claimed she had nothing to apologize for. I gave up deciding to go to bed. Tho I felt bad for how I left it and made a joke that I slammed my head on the table and now mt head hurts. She said “lol karma” this only pissed me off again.

I caved and responded with “That’s really not the issue if you truly read my texts and understood relationships you would get that” and “I’m happy you and your mom have a strong bond I’m completely fine with you confiding I just wanted to know that you did and what you said “

Detail I didn’t mention but she sucks at understanding relationships. Let’s just say her relationship with her on and off boyfriend is toxic af and she gets mad at me for saying it is when she herself has said so.

Wow I’m still texting her as I write this. I got to stop.

She then have a really bad apology “Look  I’m sorry I tell my mom things but  I always  have and always will she just want o know is all she doesn’t   tell my dad or anyone your just gonna half to expect thst I tell her I promise you it doesn’t escalate from us” again this is not what I was mad about. We talked a little more and I was still annoyed and she was upset that I didn’t accept her sorry. I said “This is not a damn apology. Cause like i said this was not what i was actually upset about. I just wanted to know how much you shared. I was only slightly annoyed at first that you shared but I understood it was your mom. I was only angered when you refused to elaborate on what you shared”

She just said whatever and stop texting. I just really need people to tell me if they are as confused by this interaction as I am. Cause wow that felt like talking to a npc or ai chat. I should unfriend her for my own mental healthy but I’m also her only friend and I see her multiple times a week at karate class and we’re the same age and belt level so we are grouped a lot. So it’s sadly not simple.