Would you rather call out your friend for their wrongdoings, even if it means risking the friendship, or just let it slide? If you choose to call them out, is it wrong? Because people often think it’s wrong, right? But the truth is, if you genuinely care about someone, you should be able to be honest with them, even if it hurts. Some people think it’s wrong because they fear confrontation will ruin things, but in reality, real friends should appreciate honesty, not just blind support. It’s about helping each other grow.

But what are your thoughts on people who choose to stand by the side of the person who did something wrong?

Recently, I had to confront my friend (A) because another friend of mine (B) was asking for help. Apparently, Friend A used Friend B's identity and spread rumors among people from different grade levels that they were dating, even though they weren’t. Friend B, on the other hand, is open about having a girlfriend and Friend A knew about it. We only recently found out that Friend B actually didn’t have a girlfriend. But Friend B explained that he only said he did throughout our entire Senior High School years because he felt uncomfortable with people or friends who liked him (which we all knew, and he’s always been awkward about it). He’s never been in a relationship, and it makes sense because he really isn’t interested, not even in crushes.

Friend B found out what Friend A did, and confronted her...both in person and in a group chat. He talked to Friend A, but she still lied. It’s crazy to think that there are actual real-life pathological liars. Friend B reached out to me, asking if I could talk to the other friends we know were “involved” based on what the sources told him, or else the adviser would have to talk to them. I didn’t want things to escalate, so I agreed. That’s what I did — I just asked and showed them the screenshots.

After Friend B talked to Friend A, she called all of our friends in person to talk about what happened — without us. Wtf??

Friend B got mad and sent a message in our group chat with this mindset: if Friend A can defend herself with lies, why can’t he defend himself with the truth? So, he did. He sent a message calling Friend A a liar and shared one of the screenshots (it was enough actually bcs the story she made abt them was really crazy). I also sent a message saying they needed to settle things because I did my best to prevent things from getting worse, but Friend A still lied. So...I cannot do anything anymore to influence Friend B's decisions because as I said, HE'S UPSET.

Then, another friend of ours started blaming me? Saying that I made the situation worse and that we were immature. Apparently, it was immature to send messages in the group chat to clear things up, but there was never any comment or statement about what Friend A did. They made it seem like Friend A wasn’t given any privacy, and that it should’ve been settled privately. I replied because Friend B was too busy to answer, like he was away from his phone.

This person kept replying, and it felt like the story was twisted to make me the one at fault for everything when all I did was try to protect them by reporting it to the adviser. And then this happens?

Friend A got mad when she saw it, saying, “What right do they have to lecture me about privacy when for an entire semester (or even more), Friend B spread lies about me?”

A lot happened...a lot. But let's skip that part. The summary is that Friend B and two of our close female friends unfollowed me. Like, what the hell? Was I really wrong? I didn’t even get an explanation, not even a simple “sorry.” I did talk to them privately and apologized for what happened but nothing, I gained nothing from them.

AITA??

(I called her a pathological liar bcs ofc this wansnt her first lie. She even spread rumors about one of my friends that she's a cheater. Like she said that my friend cheated on her even tho they werent together...She also create lies about her travels or materials things which for me was a bit bearable lie before but now?? This type of lie?? No way!)