I (23 female) and my boyfriend Marcus (23 male) have been dating for four years. In our university years we shaped a five member friendgroup. Our friends are Luis (24 male), Jessica (22 female) and Pablo (25 male). Last week we learned that Jessica got accepted into a program to study abroad and more specifically in Spain. Now it has been a dream of mine since I was a little kid to visit Barcelona and for the past few weeks I have been planning this trip for me and my bf to go. But because Marcus isn't in the best position financially at the moment we decided to go next year (in the time that Jessica will move to Spain). So after the exciting news for our friend, Luis has really been pushing the idea of us going to Barcelona 'cause it's an opportunity since Jessica will be moving to Spain. The truth is I really want to go alone with Marcus because first of all every trip we have done abroad has been with the friendgroup except one. And in every trip we spend our money in food and cafes instead of museums and monuments, and we barely even walked to see each city. Because of all that, I really want to go and absorb every detail of this beautiful city. I want to visit museums, monuments, parks. And it is an one life chance (at least in this moment) for me to go because then I won't have the money or the time to travel all the way to Spain. I really don't mind all these food tastings and cafes but this is my dream city we're talking about and I really don't know what to do. My sister told me to just say it in their face because if they were in a relationship they would do the same thing (mind you they've all been single for years). I really don't know what to do. I really need your help. So am I the a-hole if I tell them?