So me and my partner have just had an argument because I went out drinking with my friends which I rarely ever do (this was the first time we’ve been out drinking since last September) and the whole night he constantly texted me every time just after I replied and kept asking when I’m going home. At first I thought he just wants me to be safe and is checking up on me which is fine but my friend pointed out that it seems a bit controlling. I didn’t think much into it until this morning when we’ve had a pretty heated argument. He didn’t seem happy anyway because I got home at 2am (bear in mind he was also out with his friends last night till 3am) and he kept asking me what we did last night and I kept giving him the same answer over and over again saying “we just drank and danced at a bar”. It was starting to annoy me because he kept asking and then he says “did you dance with any other guys?” This sent me into a rage as I was already getting frustrated with the constant questions. I said “no of course not and why would you ask me that?” He said he needs reassurance but I give him nothing but reassurance as I know he is a big over thinker from things that have happened to him in previous relationships. He said he wanted to meet later and go for a drink to talk things out but I said I need space for a day or two to cool off. He said that’s not fair and started crying down the phone to me and said he really wants me to spend time with him. I said I need to put myself first and think of myself, which I felt mean saying this cuz again his mental health isn’t great and I don’t want to make it worse but at the same time it comes across as emotional manipulation. But I do feel bad for upsetting him tbh so that makes me feel like I’m the asshole.