30m dating a 27f. Been together for a few years and recently she's been upset that I don't post her or us on my social medias unless she asks me too. The only thing I use is Facebook and only share political points and my thoughts, like a glorified twitter. My profile picture is us and it showed on my relationship we were together (friends could see it as I don't post much about my life).

My profile still says I live in a city I haven't lived in for 5 years, has my old job and no information about where I live currently or my current job. I told her I'm not hiding her as she's met my entire family, we go out in public together, and she even flew with me to a friend's get together where she met my friends from high school. She even plays games with what are now out friends online.

I tell her I'm not hiding her, I just don't like posting about my personal life on social media anymore, and have not posted much since 2018-2019 before I knew her. She is very upset by it and I don't quite understand this level as I feel in person interactions should mean more than people I went to high school with 12 years ago seeing what I'm doing. I may just be old fashioned, but we are at the point where we may end because of it. I told her fine I'll post a picture everyday if that would make her happy, which I know isn't the point. She had a less than favourable childhood and I feel its attributed to that and never quite having any one really celebrate her. I also have my past trauma from growing up where it's hard for me to fully gap that bridge to being affectionate like that and just don't know if I'm an asshole for using my social media in this way and not posting my/our life together. There were old pictures from about six years ago and older of my ex (mainly from 2016 on a trip to Spain) but since 2019 it's been almost nothing about me or my life. And one or two pictures of exes from 2014/2015. I never believed I should hide my past or purge Facebook of old memories like that,, but have now deleted all those photos.

Am I being an asshole for thinking this is a pretty big ultimatum over social media since I find it uncomfortable to post personal stuff like that online, even about my own life? Or is it a normal thing to not post online if I haven't used my social media like that since before I met her?

Thanks in advance.