My boyfriend (M 55) and I (F 34) have been together for 2 years. Every day he has a problem with something I do, but I feel like I’m just being a normal girlfriend and human being. Let me try to clarify, this is complicated to explain. Like for example, today we ate at a restaurant buffet in Asheville NC. It was a 1 hour drive from our home. This is like a family home that the restaurant is in. And the father was present and he also works to keep it going. My bf and I were raving about how good the food was, honestly it truly is the best food I’ve ever eaten. On the way out the father that owned the restaurant was sitting out on the porch as I woke by with my bf I turned my head and said to him “this place is amazing, it’s the best food I’ve ever eaten. Keep up the good work.” Then while we were walking to the car my bf turned around and asked why I said that and got mad I complimented the owner on how good the food was. Why is my boyfriend so jealous of every man on the planet? I am nice to women all the time. I’m nice to everyone. I’m kind to all human beings. Once we got home, I get out of the car and see him do so but then he stops and looks at something. I notice he’s looking at this older man that is in his late 50’s working in his neighbor’s/stepmom’s back yard. His step mom owns a lot of land and has a farm here. That man is always working and helping her on this farm. I took note of that and said “damn that man works his ass off” and he turned his head and gave me this look and then asked who I’m talking about. He knew exactly who I’m talking about, so I can’t understand why he always does this. Why is he upset that I simply said something that is normal for anyone to say? His reaction to these things don’t match up with the reality.

Anytime I’m typing on my phone he has to know what I’m doing. There are time’s I’ll be watching videos and he’ll say “who are you txting in an agitated tone” and I don’t understand why he is so insecure. I’ve never done anything to deserve this. So of course as I’m typing this, he ask who in txting. I told him I’m making a Reddit post because I just need to know if it’s me with the problem or him. I also hope he see’s this so I can finally prove to him that the way he is treating me and accusing me constantly is not normal. It’s unreasonable. After telling him im telling my story on Reddit about our relationship problems he does it again. He says “why are you telling men our business” 🤔 if I talk to the general public, or if I post something on social media, or if I get on Facebook and make a comment under any random video like everyone else in this planet does, he refers to this as me talking to men. Not the general public. Most people understand this is not an issue. But not him. How is talking to the general public me talking to men? How is me making this post on Reddit me talking to men? I’m addressing the internet, I’m talking to the internet, not men. I deal with this every single day, multiple times a day. It’s exhausting and I just am at my wits end. I need to know what to do. He won’t go to couples counseling. (As I’m typing this he is saying “you’re going to quit treating me like this) 😒

Guys this is just the tip of the iceberg. He doesn’t allow me to talk about any men that I know. He acts like I’m cheating on him but if I so much a dare to mention another man’s name. But this is like people I went to school with, things like that. I can’t even tell him a story about a crazy incident I saw at school if there is a male involved. Even if the story had all females and only one male involved, once I mention the male in the story I’m telling him he flips out. And says I’m talking about to when men. Or he’ll say “why are you thinking about other men” just because I’m telling a story about something normal people talk about. For example it would be a story about how my teacher did something funny and how the students reacted. It’s not anything like he is making it out to be. It’s to such an extreme too. I wish I had a video to show yall. Is there any phycologist here that can tell me what the txt book definition of what he is doing or what is wrong with him. Or is he right ? Am I really in the wrong for being a normal woman taking to her boyfriend about normal things and doing normal things that every female does?