So.. just wondering if my action was TA category.

My birthday .. two adult kids - one student and one desperately trying and looking for a job. 1 year since finishing education and 20 interviews but no luck. Still lives at home, using every dosre time studying and taking online classes.

My youngest kid gave me a small gift which I loved and what I would see appropriate as a gift from "a struggling" student.

My oldest on the other hand gave me an account transfer of 300$ for something to our home we were going to buy anyways, but where I was the one who had the final decision. Difficult to say what it was specifically, because the family rooms Reddit.

I was floored, my husband and well and we both thought it was too much. So I told my oldest that I deeply loved the gift, I loved them so much but it was a gift I could not accept considering the current struggle searching for a job and no money - living on savings.

Just to add.. I did not have any whishes for my birthday - so a hug, a card or a flower pot would have been appreciated.

But...

Even if I told my kid I truely loved the sediment, I feel sad that I kind of dismissed the orrsent- the thought of it etc.

I know I could have accepted it, and found ways to "return" the money.

AITA?