EDIT MY BF IS 18M NOT 1 OMG

He says prying doesn’t help and he doesn’t want me to ask why over and over again. He says it’s a boundary, like the ones I have on sexual stuff. He’s begging me to respect his boundary of not asking stuff he doesn’t want to talk about. I tell him it’s my way of showing I care and it stresses me out like it’s a big mystery when he goes from saying extreme stuff to not. we had a similar convo about asking how his day was, and if the day was bad I get it—I’m probably in the wrong. But anyways, here’s the convo. I just always feel like the bad guy. I was trying so hard to help and I was suddenly a bit devastated he didn’t wanna go, the night before. He says me being upset now is making him feel even worse. I feel like I always end the arguments not even know what I’m saying anymore. He says he gets I’m trying to help but by asking over and over again about something he doesn’t wanna talk about doesn’t help. He says he feels like I’m not respecting his boundaries:

Him: I don't have money for a suit or food Me: I don't care. You'll look nice, you'll have fun. I'll pay. I truly do not mind Him: I feel like a bum and I'll probably be the only person taking pictures and other things I fucking hate myself Me: I care more about being happy than spending a little extra Him: I hate this Me: why? You are amazing Him: i hate everything Me: You hate what Him: I don't want to Me: do you hate me? Him: I never said that Why would you ask that Me: Well you hate this? What's this? Him: My life Me: Can I put something into perspective for you? Him: No. I wanna go to bed Me: Right now you are extremely stressed out and you are only seeing things from your framework of depression. I do not think you are a bum. You are not a bum. I don't care about money. You are amazing. Going to college, graduating, good morals. I am proud of you. Please don't get bunched up and hate everything because of additional strsss from this I'm going to do everything I can to make sure you have a fun night I love you Him: I'm going to prom In wallmart clothes Everyone will look at me funny Me: I'm going to prom in a dress that was on sale? No they won't. You will look nice You're gonna be wearing dress clothes Who cares ? I don't care You'll look nice no matter what Him: I'm gonna look weird In the pictures Me: U won't even be able to tell Why are you saying that? You're so handsome a lot of guys won't wear a suit. You ain't look weird. My baby. You are so worked up You will not look weird my love You have your hair done. You're going to be wearing dress clothes, nobody can see the brand. We are gonna have fun llove you so much My baby it's going to be okay. Cmon baby. Please don't hate yourself Him: I don't even know what's going on I feel like a burden Me: Baby you're not a burden. I love you. I wanna help you feel better Him: I wasn't thought about in any of the plans Me: I didn't make the plans Him: I know that But you didn't bring me up Or ask about me Until Roday Me: They simply told me they made a reservation No i had been asking I even checked to see how they put the tables in order. Him: I don’t wanna go Me: I think we can get an extra chair at dinner Do you want to go Him: I don’t wanna go Me: I will pay. And I don't mind I just wanna have fun And be us Who else cares what we do as long as we are happy? Him: I’m done Me: Please. Let's talk. We NEED to talk I don't want to go to bed upset at Him: I don't want to go At all I hate it Me: Can we talk Why do you hate Him: Can you please respect my choice Me: You can come to dinner. We can squish in. It will work out. please tell me why? Him: I don't want to Me: why? Him: Bc it’s Friday Me: what Him: Just know on Friday Me: I’m confused Him: it’s so late Me: please. Tell me why Him: again I don’t wanna go Me: why do you hate it so much? Please Him: (name) will be there. He’s racist but no one cares ig. I don’t wanna go Me: I’m sorry Him: I’m tired. I’m so fucking tired Me: we don’t have to go with (name), or be around (name) Him: Just respect my choice Me: please don’t hurt yourself. Please call me. Please Him: No I didn’t say that Me: pls Him: why do you put words into my mouth Me: because you keep saying you’re tired and hate your life. Because I’m concerned. Because I care Him: I’m tired of repeating that I don’t want to go. Why can’t I just not want to go Me: I respect that, but I want to know WHY him: because I don’t Me: so sudden and you're in a really bad Mood Baby why? What's wrong Please communicate Him: We already decided I'm not going Me: When???? Him: Earlier Me: Which was when? Him: At school Me: huh?? Him: There not enough seats Me: There's enough. Please, don't worry about it You can go to dinner Him: I don’t wanna go Me: will get an extra chair and squish in Him: no I’m not going Me: We can fit you in Why not if we can fit Him: Because I don't want to Me: why? Him: I’m done. I’m going to bed (he says this to get out of convos) Me: what I need you. Please call me Please Him: Abby I don't want to, why do I have to go into why I don't want to? I just don't Me: Because something is wrong Yoh wanted to And now all of a sudden you don't I'm trying so hard to make it better

Then we called and said all the context.