So me and my girlfriend have been together for 9 months. I’m in between my parent’s house and her apartment at the moment. I try and contribute the best I can and when I’m struggling she makes more than me. and the job market sucks. I had a bunch of mental health problems. But I finally got a job but haven’t started just yet. We have talked about moving in together for a while. I helped her look at house and help her find one. We looked and we talked about many other things too. She says I need to start working before I move in. She wants me to help her around the house. She wants me to help with furniture. I already started packing like she told me a week ago and I told some of my friends to help us move. Which they agreed. Everybody knows that I’m supposed to move in with her. And we talked about this but now she just wanted me to work before I move in. It makes me upset because we all talked about this. Even though I don’t make as much income. Which I’m building that back up and want to contribute as much as possible. Because I give a shit and I care. We’ve been looking at furniture which she wants me to help with and I’m doing just that. Am I an asshole for this or no? It’s like she’s doing a complete 360 on things it’s making my mental health worse. My new job is near her house and way further from parents house. I have a lot of problems living with my parents and to make matters worse I also argue with them. I love them but I don’t know what to do.

For reference: I’m trying my best despite mental health challenges. What do I do here please give me some advice.

Adding more context: my new job is next to her place we have been looking at house for the past 3 months my stuff I already packed and everything. I don’t know what do.