Just want other opinions. I'm not comfortable enough with asking people who know me in real life after being told i'm a bad gf, which has me questioning if im an AH...I want to break up w my boyfriend of almost 4 years.

He went out with his friends April 5th on the weekend. He wanted to go, I wasn't feeling up to it and had to watch our baby son. I went to bed that night knowing he has his own house key. Next few days he was acting tired and kept declining sex, wouldn't shower with me, wouldn't change his clothes around me and wouldn't even kiss me. This is a pretty big difference in our relationship, we have been together for 3 years and 8 months so we show skin to each other a lot. We've been working and haven't had the chance to talk it out. I've been wondering why this has been happening until yesterday.

A snapchat mutual sent me a video of him in a public setting. This was definitely from the 5th. She was telling me not to press charges. She must think he told me what happened. Girl, no I guess my man doesn't tell me shit! 💁🏽‍♀️ Cleary he was being forced by a bunch of men?? no woman.. sitting around him in a public setting. Nobody seems to give a shit in the video. She told me the video was sent to a group chat and she didn't record it, but isn't giving up the name of who did? Not sure how to put it, but I can tell he doesn't enjoy what is being done to him yet I still feel jealous. There's got to be a reason nobody cared...right? She's upset that I screen recorded it. I feel heartbroken and don't know what to do next. I feel like if I bring this up to my man he won't cooperate in telling me the truth.

This information is new to me and the video is fucking with my head, cant sleep or stop thinking about this situation. Stressing about how I'm going to manage being a single mother. I feel like i've been cheated on.